Change of Heart: Finding Trust and Possibility in Each Decision
Making decisions can feel hard. Weighing all of the different options, trying to anticipate every outcome, and then feeling confident in what we’ve chosen. And sometimes, we think that we’ve made the wrong decision. We regret it, and we worry that maybe we’ll never be able to make a good decision again.
When we’re making a decision, it’s important to remember that there is no such thing as a wrong decision. There is only the decision that we make in the moment, with the information that we have. We can always adjust and change course as we learn more.
The most important thing is to be present in the decision-making process. Be curious and open-minded, and trust that you have the ability to make the best decision for yourself in each moment.
When we’re able to find trust and possibility in each decision, we open ourselves up to a world of infinite possibilities.
Making decisions is an important part of life. We can’t avoid them, and we can’t always predict the outcome. But We can trust that each decision will bring us one step closer to where we are supposed to be.
How to Make Decisions With Trust and Care
When you make decisions, you’re looking to trust that you’re making the right choice for yourself and your journey.
But how can you be sure? How can you trust yourself in a world that seems so uncertain?
One way is to be clear about what it is you want to achieve. When you know what you want, it’s much easier to stay focused and feel confident in your decisions. Another key is practice. If you’re not used to making decisions, it might take a little time to get comfortable with the process. Start with smaller choices, and then work your way up to bigger ones.
Values are also important when it comes to decision-making. Consider your personal values and how they align with the decision you’re contemplating. What is the vision you have for yourself? If the two clash, that’s something to take into account. But remember that not all decisions are black or white; there can be room for nuance and different perspectives.
Lastly, stop comparing yourself to others. It’s so easy to get caught up in what others are doing, especially on social media. But everyone’s path is unique, so comparing yourself won’t do anything but make you feel bad about yourself. Trust that you are on the right path, even if it doesn’t look like anyone else’s.
And remember, if you don’t want to make a decision right now, that’s also a decision. Making decisions can be challenging, but it’s important to remember that you are the only one who knows what’s best for you. So trust yourself, and be confident in the choices you make.
Evaluating and Questioning the Decisions We Make
Once you have a good understanding of what you want, it’s time to start questioning your decision-making practices.
- How confident are you in your decision-making abilities?
- What can you do to increase your confidence?
- How will you know that a decision feels aligned?
And finally, once you have all the information, it’s time to pause and review your emotions. Are you feeling good about this decision? Is it in line with your values and what you want for your life? Or are you feeling doubtful or scared?
If everything checks out, go ahead and finalize your decision. If not, go back to the drawing board and see if there’s a different path that feels more right for you.
Maybe it’s just a feeling…
So maybe you can’t really explain why, but you have a feeling about this decision. Trust that. Some of our best decisions come from following our intuition.
It’s also important to remember that making a decision is often just the first step. You may change your mind later on, and that’s okay! As long as you continue to trust yourself and your intuition, you’ll be able to find your way along whatever path you choose.
What if I Change My Mind?
What if you make a decision and then change your mind? Well, first of all, it’s totally normal to second-guess yourself. We’ve all been there.
The important thing is to allow yourself to adjust and course-correct whenever something is not feeling aligned anymore. If you’ve made a decision and it’s not sitting right with you, trust yourself and make a change.
There’s also something to be said for learning from our ‘mistakes’. If we never made any decisions that we later regretted, we would never learn and grow. So even if a decision doesn’t turn out the way we wanted, there is still something to be learned from it.
In the end, whatever path you take, there you are. And there is no right or wrong answer, only the one that feels right for you in the moment.
Finding Comfort and Confidence in the Unknown
One way to find comfort and confidence in the unknown is to remember that you are not alone. We are all making decisions every day, and sometimes we don’t have all the information we need [or want]. That’s okay!
There is comfort in knowing that we are all walking through life together, making decisions and learning as we go. Trust that you will find the answers you need when you are ready.
Can you trust that everything happens for a reason? It can be difficult to do so when you are in the midst of making a decision but try to remember that there is a bigger picture. Sometimes we need to make a decision even when we don’t have all the information, and that’s okay.
Reframing Mistakes as Learning Opportunities
Another way to begin to trust yourself more is to see things that haven’t turned out the way you imagined not as mistakes — but instead as learning opportunities. It’s all about your perspective.
If you’re constantly beating yourself up about the times you “messed up,” you’re never going to move forward. Every decision is an opportunity to learn and grow, even if it’s not the outcome you were hoping for.
One way to think about it is that there is no such thing as a wrong decision, only a series of experiences that bring you closer to the more aligned one. If you can shift your mindset in this way, it’ll be much easier to trust your intuition and make decisions with confidence.
Here’s an example: Let’s say you’re trying to decide whether or not to take a new job. You’re feeling pretty good about it, but then you start to doubt yourself and wonder if you’re making the right choice.
Instead of getting caught up in that negative thought spiral, try to reframe the situation. This is an opportunity for you to learn more about yourself and what you want in a career. If it doesn’t work out, it’s not a failure — it’s just another step on your journey to finding the right job for you.
When you approach decisions from a place of learning and growth, it’s much easier to trust your instincts and make choices that are in line with your values.
Learning From the Lessons of Previous Decisions
If you’re anything like me, you might have a bit of decision fatigue. Trust me, I get it. It can be exhausting trying to make all the right choices, second-guessing yourself at every turn.
But here’s the thing: every decision you make, even if there were challenges coming with this decision, can teach you something. And that’s why it’s important to trust that there is something to learn from each and every choice you make.
So if you find yourself questioning a decision you made, ask yourself what lesson there is to learn from it. And then, move forward with the knowledge that you are one step closer to making the best decisions for your life.
Feel Empowered and Confident With Each Decision
It can be easy to let self-doubt creep in when you’re making a decision. But again remember, you are the only one who knows what’s right for you.
If you’re feeling unsure about a decision, take some time to sit with it. Visualize what your life would be like if you made that choice. Does it feel light and joyful or tight? And if you still can’t decide, flip a coin! Seriously. Sometimes the best way to move forward is to surrender — meaning to let go of the need to control the outcome.
And if you change your mind after making a decision? That’s okay! Remember, it doesn’t mean you made the wrong choice. It just means that you’re open to learning and growing. So embrace each decision, knowing that it’s taking you one step closer to your highest good.
It can be difficult to have faith in ourselves, and even more so when we feel like we’ve made the wrong decision. But what if we could trust that every decision we make, even if it seems like the wrong one, is teaching us something? Trust that even if you feel like you made a mistake, there is still something to be gained from the experience.
When it comes to making decisions, it’s important to remember that we can always change our minds. So if you’re feeling unsure about a decision, or if you’ve already made it and now you’re second-guessing yourself, know that that’s okay. There is no right or wrong answer, only what’s right for you in that moment.
Trust that you are capable of making the right decision for yourself and that you will be guided in the right direction. Believe in yourself, and know that you can always find your way back to your heart’s true desires.